Being a Vulnerable User: Three Drivers
On Monday
In the middle of the afternoon, a ten day old baby in his mother’s arms, his mother and two of his grandparents were struck by the drunk driver of a pickup truck. Both of the baby’s grandparents were killed and he and his mother were both seriously injured. The driver had two previous arrests for driving drunk and was driving his car with a suspended license.
The crosswalk in North East Seattle where Mark Mullan, a completely unfit driver, finally killed two people and possibly killed two others including a newborn baby, was immediately in front of Eckstein Middle School. Eckstein is a school that many of us have heard of because of how successfully the community there has embraced biking to school. The intersection where the collision happened is well known as a dangerous one. The Seattle Bike Blog wrote eloquently on how we as a society have an obligation to prevent similar tragedies by fixing dangerous roads.
Baby and Momma are still in the hospital, in critical condition.
On Tuesday
When Little Oil and I were preparing to ride up to Tyler’s house, in North East Seattle, Tyler mentioned that taking 35th Ave could be hairy. It is wide and straight and I could imagine how some drivers could work up a good head of speed but I’ve ridden on there before and I thought I could handle it. I think I control traffic really well on such streets. I stay visible, take the lane with confidence, keep clear of dangerous passing and give other users a lot of room and respect. I very rarely hear or sense any frustration from drivers when I ride like that in downtown traffic with Little Oil on board or even when I ride on Rainier, (which I won’t be doing with Little Oil on board, I don’t think). Besides, there’s sharrows on 35th! Sharrows make it safe, right?
So we did take 35th. And it was fine. We were cruising along, riding with the assist and pedaling hard (we are riding an e-assist Edgerunner right now, I’ll be writing all about it soon!). All traffic was flowing smoothly until, out of nowhere, the pickup that was overtaking us suddenly swerved toward us. The driver slowed her truck and lurched it towards our side of the lane and shouted, shrieked,
“Do you think that’s safe? With a kid on the back?“
Then she sped ahead of us, revving her engines and halting suddenly at the red light one block up. Little Oil asked me why the driver was mad at us. I couldn’t answer. I hadn’t read the news about the tragic collision that had so violently harmed one family only blocks from where we were riding. I didn’t know what I now assume was on the mind of the driver of the pickup truck on Tuesday. That another driver had used a truck just like hers to kill those people. That cars kill. That streets are dangerous because of unsafe driving.
The thing is, while Tuesday’s driver pretended to be concerned for our safety she was the one who was creating the unsafe situation. We were riding a bike on a neighborhood street that the city actually marked specially for biking on. She was swerving all over the road and distracting us both from driving safely.
Tuesday’s driver forcefully implied that we weren’t safe on the street in that moment. After being verbally harangued by a careless driver dangerously weaving her truck at us, I agreed with her and turned the bike off 35th and continued on a parallel side street.
On Wednesday
Picking up Little from school downtown early this evening.
Another truck, this one disguised as a luxury vehicle. I swear that Wednesday’s driver looked exactly like Tuesday’s. They are not the same person but as I think of them, seeing red, they combine in my mind. This isn’t rational or fair. Its just my feelings.
My precious daughter, threatened this evening downtown. By an angry, shrieking driver who, I honestly don’t know why, felt the need to cut into our lane and swerve her enormous vehicle at us so that, just before she was caught by a red light, she could scream at the face of my three year-old baby,
“You think you are so fucking smart!“
And you know what, lady? You know what all you hostile drivers? You too-close passers and you comment thread concern-trolls? When it comes to getting around in the city I live in, I do think I am so fucking smart. Yes, I do. I think I am lucky, privileged and fortunate to be able to live with out driving a car. I also think that I, and everybody who does not drive any more than they must despite all of the forces hard at work to keep us driving as much as possible until the very bitter end are SO FUCKING SMART!
People have a right to use the road! We have a right to use it without being threatened! You are going to acknowledge that streets are dangerous from behind the wheel of your swerving truck? I don’t believe in your concern for my child’s safety. I believe that you are sincerely concerned that you could kill someone, too. And you could. Stop driving.
I know that auto-dependance is complex. I know that most of us live lives that basically require us to drive. This is unjust and unsustainable. We know this for a fact: driving is unsafe. We also know this: driving is unsustainable. And this: driving hurts others. We drive anyway, despite knowing that driving harms ourselves and others. This is not ethical behavior. This is a addiction. Safety for pedestrians, access to bicycles and funding for transit are what we need to break it and to start getting our life back together.
So well said, Davey. And I don’t mean that just because I live in the neighborhood and ride 35th multiple times a week. Nor because I’m still fuming about the driver who couldn’t wait until me and two kids to clear a marked and signaled crosswalk before he could get on with his oh-so-important life.
No, it’s because I agree: you are so fucking smart.
Keep it up!
It is very, very hard to remember some days that they are the ones in the cage (and where we live, that they chose to be there), because they are still so, so deadly. Thanks for writing about this. I have difficulty talking about similar experiences; thankfully they are rare.
Absolutely, they are rare. I think I’ve only been yelled at with Little Oil on the bike once before.
Just feeling so sad and angry over these deaths. It simply should not happen.
a-fucking-men ♥
Great piece! After getting right hooked today, so fucking smart, and so fucking true! Keep up the fight! I’m car free and loving the freedom here in PDX, supporting biking every way I can!
I don’t understand why road rage seems to happen in clumps. Perhaps there is some collective anger that throbs through the populace. It was a full moon out. I get that same clump too. Glad you got the E-assist. Ours is coming back from the shop on Saturday.
Carting kids is fun but really our kids should have a safe separated place to ride on their own as early as possible. And so should parents. And old people. Changing drivers is different from growing cyclists young and then them becoming drivers who rode first.
As our kids get older on their own bikes and mine they understand not only the driver rage they have met so often but that it is directed at them. Hard to face but true.
We don’t have to make slow change for our kids. I really think it will be better to go with separated lane growth for our kids in every city- looking to the current North American standard of realistic change in Minneapolis and New York City. It should not be slow. Our kids should not be outliers and if we can work for these lanes tirelessly in our own cities many driver’s kids will become cyclists much much sooner.
Disengaging riders as much as possible from cars- not wasting money on drivers who can’t change. We are all drivers too but we ride.
My goal isn’t to carry my kids on our bike but for them to have a safe separated place to ride on their own. Let the cars go their own way.
Thanks for this, Davey! Well said.
btw, I absolutely hate riding on 35th and avoid it at all costs. That road is so wide, and there is plenty of room for all of us (cars, bikes, peds on sidewalk). But for some reason, drivers really get angry when they see bikes on the road.
I’ve been told the same thing by drivers multiple times on that road in particular. And I agree, their concern for my child’s safety is just passive-aggressive bs. They don’t really care about me or my kid. I’m in their way, I’m slowing them down and they want me to know about it.
Thank you Davey… and Little Oil. It’s just not as compelling when a lawyer riding by himself moans about aggressive SUV drivers physically asserting their dominance… like, say, yesterday on my way home from work, clearly swerving towards me doing 60 mph in a 35 zone.
This is why we should advocate for strict liability… We should change the “burden of proof” to make drivers of motor vehicles who hit bicyclists or pedestrians presumed to be at fault.
Unfortunately, many people are killed or seriously injured by drivers who then are able to blame the victim saying, “she came out of nowhere” with no one to say otherwise. We need to shift the starting line so that vulnerable users can get a fair shake. More here: http://www.washingtonbikelaw.com/BicycleLeg%281209%29.pdf
This post really hits home for me as someone who is part of a car-free family. These have been hard days for vulnerable road users in Seattle. I can’t stop thinking about Karina and Elias and Dan–even though I don’t even know them.
Thank you for this post.
You are so fucking smart. Thanks for being out here, doing what you do.
Thanks for the excellent post Davey and thanks for being a better (and fucking smarter) person than I am. You are setting a great example for you daughter too.
I live in the CD/Madrona, ride every day to First Hill, Capital Hill, and the ID and often up to Beacon Hill and drivers in these neighborhoods are great. Used to ride Nickerson and Westlake and got yelled at almost daily. And I wasn’t as restrained as you are when I rolled up to them at the red light. Maybe central/south Seattle is a better place to ride!
- orange Yuba Mondo family dad
People who don’t ride have no idea what kind of harassment comes with biking. I’ve been screamed at, had water bottles thrown at me, and even live fireworks shot at me — all during times when I was riding in a straight line in a nice shoulder, not blocking anyone!
I get lost at the “stop driving” sentiment. Our problem isn’t that people drive. It’s that the cars weigh twice too much, get driven six times too much, and are twice as powerful as is necessary for their use. The average family has 2 cars and drives each of them 15,000 miles per year. I don’t see anything wrong with a family with 2 kids who owns a single, sensible Scion xA that gets driven 2,000-3,000 miles per year. If Seattle switched from the first paradigm to the second, safety would go way up, personal savings would skyrocket, and health would increase *and* you could still drive to Bellingham when the train is canceled from a mudslide.
Saying ‘stop driving’ is like telling a person racking up credit card debt with nightly sushi dinners that they should stop spending any money on food whatsoever. Spending money on food isn’t the problem, spending an insane amount on ridiculous food is the problem. Don’t stop eating, just stay home and make some pasta.
Thanks for being out there riding, Davey – each of us makes it easier and safer for all the others. My kiddo and I ride together on Dexter and Fremont Ave occasionally with a trail-a-bike, hopefully more often in spring and summer. It’s been great so far! Fingers crossed!
Wow. Excellent post, Davey. You are so fucking smart! No matter how hard I try, I just don’t understand the hostility or the behavior.
I don’t handle those situations well. I’ve fantasized about flame throwers and potato guns mounted to my bike. Haven’t followed through… Instead it usually just takes me off my bike for a few days.
Thanks for being so fucking smart, Papa Oil!
So much greatness here and very people could say it so well. Thank you for getting it down.
I ride 35th often between 95th and 80th heading to the grocery store and sometimes further to the Top Pot or NE branch library. Never have had a problem with ragers. Or anything actually. It;s nice to ride on. Everyone typically gives plenty of room and waits to pass.
Experiences with different areas seem to vary quite a bit for different people. I think Capitol Hill is the worst with the buses, constant danger of being doored and super distracted drivers. (That description could probably be used for a number of areas though.)
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Thanks for sharing your stories. I sometimes run circles in my mind trying to figure out why some drivers behave the way they do and wonder “what were they thinking?”. But everyday I see more people walking and biking, see more people writing about and talking about creating sustainable and safe places to live, and I know we are smart and we are making some progress, however slow it might seem sometimes.
I realize now I have seen you and your wee-one downtown before and you’d better believe it put a mighty smile on my face. Keep up the great work, smarty pants!